As the 6th day of Muharram approached, we started to remember how Imam Hussain (as) became alone; with no companions left by his side. The days of remembering his own dear family have come and this day (6th Muharam) is dedicated to none other than the two little hero’s of Kerbala, Hazrat Aun and Muhammed (as).
Before we start with the lesson from their story, a few words of praise is something these two little boys totally deserve. Imagine any 9 and 11 year old you may know. Now think of those 2 little boys actually sitting on a horse, and managing a sword and the reigns at the SAME time! For Hazrat Abbas, a full grown man, its not something hard, but for a 9 year old?!?! These two princes were so small that their legs didn’t even reach the foot placing of the saddles; yet not only did they go out and fight, but it is said that the two brothers killed 360 soldiers!! Imagine, they were so small, and thirsty for 3 days too!! Truly, only the grandchildren of Imam Ali (as) and Hazrat Jaffer (as) could have managed such a feat!…
Now one wonders how such small children were actually willing to go into the battlefield, knowing that the same fate awaited them that overtook their uncle’s companions ie: death.. I mean, wouldn’t normal kids run as far away from a scene like this as possible? But these kids weren’t just ordinary children, rather they were the result of bravery and loyalty to the Imam coming together to give birth to and train them.. Hence, today we will discuss a little upon the importance of correct upbringing, and this topic is as important for the kids reading this as it is for the adults since IA they will be parents too one day..
On the night of Ashura, we see that all the mothers give their children a “talk,” explaining to them how important it is for them to go out and fight to help the Imam (as) the next day. One very interesting line that we hear each mother say is that they do not want to be embarrassed in front of Bibi Fatemah (as) on the day of judgement, when she will ask them why they didn’t give up their sons to help her own.
Now hold on a minute.. Aren’t we mothers too, and don’t we have children living at the same time as one of the sons of Fatemah (as)? That means technically, rather SURELY, we will be asked too by the Lady of Light how, and if not, why didn’t our children help her son, the Imam of our time!!… Think, won’t we be asked?? Yup brothers and sisters, we’re going to face the same fate as the mothers of Kerbala.. How on Earth are we going to answer her???
Almost all parents have this way of thinking that their children are for their own selves. They bring them up from day one, until providing for them till their last year of university, thinking about how these children will assist them, and be of use to THEM in their old age. An honest question: Don’t we see the exact opposite in Kerbala?? Don’t the mothers literally compete with each other in having their children sacrificed for the Imam of their time? For every parent out there: Would you be able to have done the same thing if you were there? Whether or not your child would be willing to go is a different story; would YOU, knowing what lies ahead of you, be able to send your protectors out to the plains of Kerbala to be killed, leaving you to face what will one day be known as history’s worst tragedy??… Think parents, think…
We must understand that the current situation of the world is simply horrible… We need the Imam (as) RIGHT NOW, but he will only come when his army is ready. Dearest parents, please understand that his army, is in YOUR laps.. Gone are the days when you have to think about what a big degree you want your child to have, and how grand you want their weddings to be, and how your dream is to see them in the most expensive car bought with their own money! At the rate at which this world is going, we must realize that we have no guarantee what-so-ever that the countries where we are living and feel safe in, will be in the same situation tomorrow. Haven’t we seen that with Syria already?? Within weeks, a quite country never seen on the news is now a terror zone comparable to Iraq!!
So now, being in Zuhoor e Sughra, we just HAVE to wake up and stop thinking about all these worldly things!! We have to make our children understand how they can’t afford to waste their time on movies, fb, books, games, etc etc. A little relaxation here and there is ok. But as Bibi Zainab (as) had told her children about the Day of Ashura well in advance, the little boys had an divine aim in life, and hence worked their whole life getting ready for that reason on their existence.
Your question: Do our children have any aim in their life greater than: I have to top the class in my IGCSEs? Or that I one day will buy myself a Ferrari? Or an even more important question: Do they even have an aim?!?! When you answer that question, be honest with yourself… It’ll make you realize how much you have to work on your kids.. Shouldn’t their aim be: I want to be like Habib Ibne Mazahir, sooo great that rather than me calling the Imam (as), he calls me!! Come on parents, isn’t this what you’re supposed to be training your kids towards??
A final point we’ll touch on is how people tend to think that it is only the mother who is incharge of this major role of training children. I ask you: Wasn’t Hazrat Abdullah the one who told Bibi Zainab to take Hazrat Aun and Muhammed to Kerbala and sacrifice them? Wasn’t Imam Ali (as) the one who brought up all his 4 children, since the eldest ie: Imam Hassan (as) was no more than 7-8 years when Bibi Fatema (as) passed away? Wasn’t Bibi Fatemah (as) herself trained and taught almost entirely by her father?
Hence, men have an equal part in the upbringing role, and if because of the hard financial times, if men find themselves at work for too long, therefore unable to teach their children any lessons of life, the BEST thing which they can do is being superb examples for their children in every possible way. Children are great mimickers; after watching you do Wudhu before sleeping in their bathroom for 2 weeks, trust me, in a little while, they’re going to stand behind you waiting to do the same thing before they sleep too.
Therefore, the best way to teach your children how to be perfect beings, in both their Akhlaq and their knowledge, in their Dunya and the hereafter, is being perfect yourselves. Even the Quran tells us that:
O ye who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is Men and Stones.. (66:6)
So if you have decided that you will not watch movies anymore, or that you will start to perfectly wear Hijab, or that every morning you will sit in the hall with your laptop on full volume to listen to Dua e Ahad, then Insha Allah, your family will join you too. Man is inclined to goodness, all he needs is a push. Dear parents, you ARE that push for your children; please understand that…
May Allah (SWT) Guide us, and hence, enable us to be beacons of guidance for our children too, and May He Bless our children with the chance of being among the servants of our Imam (as) – Ameen!!